Watching 非诚勿扰/Perfect Match which is actually a Chinese matchmaking show which is witty and sharp. I never would have thought that I would watch such shows but the 3 hosts 黄老师，乐嘉老师 & 孟爷爷 are truly good. Their conversations which deliver sharp, witty and subtle comments truly showcase the beauty of the language. But basically anyone who can do so in any language is amazing.
Lesson 1: Never be afraid of rejections
People will reject you. Sometimes over and over again as shown in one episode in which the female contestant was constantly rejected by the male contestants. But she found someone who took her hand in the end because she wasn’t afraid to keep her light till the end for men whom she thought would be right for her.
Rejections happen but don’t let them get to you. Reflect on your shortcomings and move on.
Lesson 2: It’s ok to reject people
Don’t be pressurized into accepting people because they are sweet. No feel 就是 no feel if I may quote myself on this. But feel 来的时候，怎么挡都挡不住. If you feel they aren’t right for you then just say no. Be fair to yourself and the other person. Don’t settle for wrong things and especially not for the wrong people.
They may be wonderful but not for you.
Lesson 3: Be brave
Love takes courage. It obviously takes balls to be on the stage declaring that you’re on the Quest to find Love because the people around you may mock and laugh at your ‘desperateness’. The courage to walk away with a person who is a 70% stranger to you and even the possibility of uprooting your life just to be with him. The courage to confess and be honest about yourself and your feelings. Not every thing can be within your predictions so just muster your courage.
Lesson 4: Emotions vs Rationale
Strike a balance between both. Be in touch with how you feel and distinguish between feeling touched and love. Know how you feel so you won’t make the wrong decisions but don’t be swept away by your emotions so that you make a wrong decision.
Lesson 5: Love yourself
I think all the female contestants in the show do love themselves. They are aware of their flaws but also aware of their strengths. They are confident but not arrogant. They have their insecurities too. It’s difficult to say how one should love oneself. But I think it shows in one’s demeanor. How much they treasure and respect themselves. They are all there to find their best match and there is no settling for any less. And I think that’s part of loving yourself.
Because only when you love yourself despite your imperfections, you come to accept yourself for who you are. It doesn’t mean that you don’t try to correct your flaws. You still do but you know that you don’t have to be overly harsh on yourself.
And other people will come to love you after you do. I think that’s also when you realise that love is more than having a person accepting you for all your flaws.
Ok that was long, Why am I so long-winded but 5 is a good number when you’re listing things? But it looks as if Luo Qi is leaving tonight.
When you read my post, it is essential to read the title because I connect it in a sentence #fyi