At the age which I’m attending weddings and funerals and actually old enough to understand what we’re celebrating or mourning for.
Old enough to know that
Weddings aren’t necessarily happily-ever-afters but just the beginning of another chapter.
Death is permanent and no amount of longing or whatsoever is going to reverse that.
Death affects the living more than it does the dead.
While loss is permanent, the pain of it fades and lightens with time, the hole left behind will seem smaller or even less significant as time passes. But also that it’ll come back to overwhelm you with an amazing force that will leave you painfully winded. Like tides, there are ebbs and flows but unlike tides, there is no cycle or pattern. There are only hidden triggers that reveal themselves when you feel all that is associated with the loss hit you like a speeding truck.